Sometimes I hop on Yahoo Answers to ask a question and give a few answers. You can read many funny questions along with answers or find an answer to your question! About 4 months ago I came across this question
Who ever she was appeared to me young and innocent so I couldn't pass on her question. Here was my response
|[Please excuse the terrible grammar!! At least it made sense - ha!]|
I felt really good after leaving her this comment and even better after she appreciated it.
Here is what I have to say from the heart.
I'm not the tallest but that is okay. There will always be girls who are taller than me. I shouldn't feel less of myself because of this. And when I do come across someone who is shorter I shouldn't feel superior.
I don't have the longest or thickest hair that stays shinny, clean, un-frizzy or straight. But I do have long thick hair that shines in the sun and is wavy that isn't always perfect but is manageable and is perfect in it's own way.
I don't have big breast like other women but that is okay. I wouldn't look right with bigger breast. My boobs fit me fine. I don't feel less of myself because of other woman who have big boobs and they show them off [not all women]. There is a thing called self respect.
I am smaller on top but bigger around the waist and I have bigger thighs. It's genetics. I have a big butt. I am aware of this. But I don't feel less of myself of others who say 'I'm thick' or fat because I am not a size 0-6. I'm between 8-12 and okay with that. I am the way I am and I am thicker on the button. I'm not 'fat' at all. Everyone has opinions.
I have really chubby cheeks and high cheek bones and I am okay with this.
My arms, face and legs are darker toned then my waist and butt, but who cares? The only person who see's me naked is Matthew (and sometimes my mama), no one else does. Honestly he doesn't care and no do I.
I think that all women (and men) need to understand that in the end you are who you are and no one can change that. You are here and you are very special because of that.
In your life time thousands will welcome you and beyond thousands will not. How you view yourself is what is important. Don't impress others who are not worth your time (unless of course for a job interview, college acceptance or for an contest). Accept who you are, you are good enough. If there are those around you who are making you feel less than enough then maybe you should reconsider. We don't just feel less of from nothing - something or someone has had to cause it.
I've learned that not everyone is looking at your flaws. We see our flaws and assume everyone else see's them the same way you do. Depending on the flaw, it might be more noticeable but that doesn't mean everyone has an negative approach to it. Not everyone is analyzing the fact that you might be super tall, overweight, underweight, etc. But there are those who do. And for those that do maybe they have such a poor self image of themselves that they compare and judge themselves to others.
Confidence is a beautiful thing. Being real, yourself and different is a beautiful, beautiful thing. As I told the girl, carry yourself high and remain strong. Don't worry about what other's think. Strive to be your best. You are no one else.